Did you ever think about the fact that you gave someone life?
Ever feel like a slacker? Lazy? Underachiever?
You gave someone life.
Obviously, it's so much more than just giving life - we all know that. But let's just keep it simple for the sake of this post and observe, recognize and be awe-struck over what we've done. In honor of Mother's Day - let's just look back on what we've accomplished and celebrate it as we should. Let's put aside our differences for a minute - let's stop the war of the words and the worlds as far as being a mom goes. I'm so tired from seeing women attack each other because others choose a different way. You've heard the old saying, "there's more than one way to skin a cat," well there's more than one way to raise a child, to feed a child, to diaper a child, to educate a child - - can we just make a decision to be kind to each other and respect the different parenting ways? Can we just stand together, as Mothers, and hold hands around the world and exhale for a minute?
To look back, do we preface it with all of the things we had to do to get pregnant/have a baby? Whether it was the first try, or the first round of in-vitro, or the first year of trying - or the first five years of waiting on an adoption list. We all have our firsts that we struggled with.
The first time we experienced morning sickness.
The first time we had a hormone shot.
The first time an adoption fell through.
We all got queasy over something in the beginning.
Then we went on to struggle with our seconds.
The second time we had to go back for an ultrasound because the first one made the Dr. uneasy.
The second round of in-vitro.
The second miscarriage.
The second round of blood work.
The second batch of adoption legal fees.
We all had all sorts of seconds...and not just of dessert helpings.
And we made it to three.
The third trimester restricted to bed rest.
The third round of in-vitro that worked.
The third trip to another country.
The third meeting with a genetic counselor.
The third trip to the ER.
We had thirds we will never forget.
And through miracles of all shape and form, all sizes big and small - we made it.
We held our baby.
We gave someone a life.
The greatest gift we could give.
But it doesn't end there. It's the gift we give - that keeps on giving. We keep giving.
Those helpless little ones. Needing us for everything. Food, comfort, diaper changes, warmth, love.
And we make it through those first few nights at home...and those first few weeks on no sleep...and those first few baths with our hearts in our throat. And when we do fall asleep, we wake up suddenly to make sure they are breathing...and we pray they don't choke, and we pray we don't fall down the stairs with them in our arms, and we pray that their first doctor's appointments reassure us that they are healthy and we're doing it right.
We just do it.
And the time goes on. And the years go by. And the worries change, and they multiply, and they come and they go - but they are there.
We are all in this together. No matter how you became a mother. No matter who you mother. Let's celebrate this together, regardless of what you believe, how you did it, what worked for you, what you stand for, what you stand up against - let's stand together.
We gave life.
THAT IS HUGE.
Cheers and Love,
Happy Mother's Day!